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VALENTINE’S DAY MIX #6: VERY SAD MEN

PFU #031

USE: Crying Alone. For Him.

  1. The National – I Need My Girl
  2. Fleetwood Mac – Tusk
  3. Fred Williams & The Jewels Band – Tell Her
  4. Radiohead – There There
  5. Bob Dylan – Positively 4th Street
  6. Ray Charles – Losing Hand
  7. Cat Stevens – Trouble
  8. Pulp – The Fear
  9. Chuck Berry – Drifting Heart
  10. Clap Your Hands Say Yeah – Details of the War
  11. The Helio Sequence – October
  12. Crooked Fingers – When You Were Mine [Prince Cover]
  13. The Chi-lites – Oh Girl
  14. Willie Nelson – I’ve Never Cared For You
  15. John Lee Hooker – The Waterfront
  16. Broken Social Scene – Lover’s Spit
  17. Sammy Davis Jr. – The Party’s Over
  18. Wild Beasts – End Come Too Soon
  19. Tom Waits – Who Are You?
  20. Trentemoller – Miss You [Pole Remix]

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VALENTINE’S DAY MIX #4: SAD WOMEN

PFU MIX #004

USE: Dealing With Heartbreak, Shock and Depression Stages. For Her.

  1. Little Dragon – Twice
  2. Portishead – Mysterons
  3. Beach House – Some Things Last A Long Time
  4. Shangri-Las – I’ll Never Learn
  5. Lali Puna – Don’t Think
  6. Patsy Cline – Why Can’t He Be You?
  7. Yeah Yeah Yeahs – Down Boy
  8. Betty Crutcher – So Lonely Without You
  9. Blonde Redhead – Misery Is A Butterfly (Wicked Version)
  10. Aretha Franklin – Without The One I Love
  11. Holly Golightly with The Greenhornes – There Is An End
  12. Nina Simone – Either Way I Lose
  13. Cat Power – Metal Heart [Original Version]
  14. Heart – Alone
  15. Boss Hog – Texas
  16. Dolly Parton – Jolene
  17. Etta James – Fool That I Am
  18. Debbie Dean – A New Girl
  19. Neko Case – (Look For Me) I’ll Be Around
  20. Delizia – Laissons Passer les Annees
  21. Mazzy Star – Into Dust
  22. Yael Naim – Toxic

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VALENTINE’S DAY MIX #3: FOR SAD MEN

This is my favorite mix.

PFU #003

USE: Dealing with Heartbreak – Depression and Bargaining Stages. For Him.

  1. James Brown – Goodbye My Love, Parts 1 & 2
  2. Peter, Bjorn, and John – The Chills
  3. Al Green – Don’t Hurt Me No More
  4. Willie Nelson – Both Sides Now
  5. Chuck Berry – Wee Wee Hours
  6. The Walkmen – Many Rivers To Cross
  7. Johnny Thunders – You Can’t Put Your Arm Around A Memory
  8. Elvis Presley – That’s When Your Heartaches Begin
  9. The White Stripes – A Martyr For My Love For You
  10. Little Stevie Wonder – Sunset
  11. Kyu Sakamoto – Sukiyaki
  12. Black Rebel Motorcycle Club – Sympathetic Noose
  13. Pavement – Here
  14. Sam Cooke – Bring It On Home
  15. Waylon Jennings – Delia’s Gone
  16. Frank Sinatra – In The Wee Small Hours of The Morning
  17. The Magnetic Fields – I Don’t Want To Get Over You
  18. Otis Redding – You Don’t Miss Your Water
  19. Neil Young – Heart of Gold
  20. The Make-Up – Time Machine
  21. LCD Soundsystem – Someone Great

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Past The Verge. The Heartbreak Anthology: Part 4

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So it’s been a while I know, but things are now rolling again and this month the heartbreak anthology will be completed, at least this volume. This is the mix for women’s sadness, which is a brutal and powerful thing to experience for most involved parties. To be clear, I’m not talking about a scorned woman. That was the purpose of PFU #002. I’m talking about the times when a woman feels truly and honestly sad, desperate , and afraid that she is not or will not be loved. When she has no ideas of how to fix things, no plans for solutions or alternatives, just a dangerous vacuum. This has it’s own special and heavy gravity. With all attempts to have female sadness romanticized, marginalized, and  mocked I feel that its true impact never changes. I think it’s possible to appear unfazed or actually be temporarily indifferent to a devastated woman, but that doesn’t last. Only true sociopaths are immune.

When woman are strong or weak there seems to have be a comfortable cliche to soften, dismiss, or reverse the situation, but when women are truly destroyed, the world seems out of balance, something is wrong. Men don’t, and probably never will, have this power. I like that. Be it chauvinism, guilt, misguided pity, the reality of maternal nature, world history, personal hang-ups, or just me being a pussy…I don’t care. I like the fact that this gender imbalance (or at least my view of it) falls into the woman’s court.

I realize that the idea of making mixes for women that are supposed to sync up with their heaviest emotions is ridiculous, but this is my offering. I tried to feature songs that had a few various root causes of women’s sadness (relating specifically to heartbreak) that I have run across, from the understandable to the illogical and maddening. In an attempt to keep the relevance of this blog I am having two guest mixes for female sadness and anger that will be done by actual females coming later this month. Seeing the contrast alone should be fun or at least educational. Here we go ladies: A soundtrack to one of the things that (most)men are afraid of.

PFU MIX #004

USE: Dealing With Heartbreak, Shock and Depression Stages. For Her.

  1. Little Dragon – Twice
  2. Beach House – Some Things Last A Long Time
  3. Shangri-Las – I’ll Never Learn
  4. Lali Puna – Don’t Think
  5. Patsy Cline – Why Can’t He Be You?
  6. Yeah Yeah Yeahs – Down Boy
  7. Betty Crutcher – So Lonely Without You
  8. Blonde Redhead – Misery Is A Butterfly (Wicked Version)
  9. Aretha Franklin – Without The One I Love
  10. Holly Golightly with The Greenhornes – There Is An End
  11. Nina Simone – Either Way I Lose
  12. Cat Power – Metal Heart (Original Version)
  13. Heart – Alone
  14. Boss Hog – Texas
  15. Dolly Parton – Jolene
  16. Portishead – Mysterons
  17. Etta James – Fool That I Am
  18. Neko Case – (Look For Me) I’ll Be Around
  19. Delizia – Laissons Passer les Annees
  20. Mazzy Star – Into Dust
  21. Debbie Dean – A New Girl
  22. Yael Naim – Toxic

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Sadgasm. The Heartbreak Anthology: Part 3

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Good Evening. Let’s Get Sad. To that place where someone leaves you and advice and logic are useless. The mind usually leaps into a mode to fix its own imbalance as quickly as possible. This, of course, is usually the worst sort of reaction because heartbreak isn’t commonly a quick fix. Even if there is hope for a relationship most often there is a sizeable amount of arduous time apart required to recalibrate yourself and then properly recognize, accept, and mend the toxic elements that brought everything down. That’s if you’re lucky.

This mix is for men, and a woman’s mix will be following shortly. However, I think they all the sadness mixes will work for both sexes, much more than the anger mixes. Sadness usually makes us be a bit more accepting of another point of view because, well, we want everything to be ok.

I think that the brain has a hard time suddenly losing what it had come to assume was an essential element, no matter the amount of clues beforehand. The natural human reaction to say or do anything to solve a long view problem overnight (like a rotten relationship) eventually reminds us all that we, despite our quasi-sophistication, cannot escape becoming very irrational and dishonest with ourselves at our core.  This is a generalization, but seeing how most cultures defend this behavior in art, music, etc. as an inescapable defining human characteristic, I’d say its close enough to declare embedded in us. I don’t think we can evolve out of it. So…here’s what we get back for all of that intractable self destruction and pain.

Some of these songs are by the people who “cause” this sadness and the rest were written by really, really desperate and devastated people at their most irrational and broken. They’re so fucking good.

 PFU MIX #003

USE: Dealing with Heartbreak – Depression and Bargaining Stages. For Him.

 
 
  1. James Brown – Goodbye My Love, Parts 1 & 2
  2. Peter, Bjorn, and John – The Chills
  3. Al Green – Don’t Hurt Me No More
  4. Willie Nelson – Both Sides Now
  5. The Walkmen – Many Rivers To Cross
  6. Chuck Berry – Wee Wee Hours
  7. Johnny Thunders – You Can’t Put Your Arm Around A Memory
  8. Elvis Presley – That’s When Your Heartaches Begin
  9. The White Stripes – A Martyr For My Love For You
  10. Little Stevie Wonder – Sunset
  11. Black Rebel Motorcycle Club – Sympathetic Noose
  12. Sammy Ward – Bread Winner
  13. Kyu Sakamoto – Sukiyaki
  14. Pavement – Here
  15. Sam Cooke – Bring It On Home
  16. Waylon Jennings – Delia’s Gone
  17. Frank Sinatra – In The Wee Small Hours of The Morning
  18. The Magnetic Fields – I Don’t Want To Get Over You
  19. Otis Redding – You Don’t Miss Your Water
  20. Neil Young – Heart of Gold
  21. The Make-Up – Time Machine
  22. LCD Soundsystem – Someone Great

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