Good Evening. Let’s Get Sad. To that place where someone leaves you and advice and logic are useless. The mind usually leaps into a mode to fix its own imbalance as quickly as possible. This, of course, is usually the worst sort of reaction because heartbreak isn’t commonly a quick fix. Even if there is hope for a relationship most often there is a sizeable amount of arduous time apart required to recalibrate yourself and then properly recognize, accept, and mend the toxic elements that brought everything down. That’s if you’re lucky.
This mix is for men, and a woman’s mix will be following shortly. However, I think they all the sadness mixes will work for both sexes, much more than the anger mixes. Sadness usually makes us be a bit more accepting of another point of view because, well, we want everything to be ok.
I think that the brain has a hard time suddenly losing what it had come to assume was an essential element, no matter the amount of clues beforehand. The natural human reaction to say or do anything to solve a long view problem overnight (like a rotten relationship) eventually reminds us all that we, despite our quasi-sophistication, cannot escape becoming very irrational and dishonest with ourselves at our core. This is a generalization, but seeing how most cultures defend this behavior in art, music, etc. as an inescapable defining human characteristic, I’d say its close enough to declare embedded in us. I don’t think we can evolve out of it. So…here’s what we get back for all of that intractable self destruction and pain.
Some of these songs are by the people who “cause” this sadness and the rest were written by really, really desperate and devastated people at their most irrational and broken. They’re so fucking good.
PFU MIX #003
USE: Dealing with Heartbreak – Depression and Bargaining Stages. For Him.
- James Brown – Goodbye My Love, Parts 1 & 2
- Peter, Bjorn, and John – The Chills
- Al Green – Don’t Hurt Me No More
- Willie Nelson – Both Sides Now
- The Walkmen – Many Rivers To Cross
- Chuck Berry – Wee Wee Hours
- Johnny Thunders – You Can’t Put Your Arm Around A Memory
- Elvis Presley – That’s When Your Heartaches Begin
- The White Stripes – A Martyr For My Love For You
- Little Stevie Wonder – Sunset
- Black Rebel Motorcycle Club – Sympathetic Noose
- Sammy Ward – Bread Winner
- Kyu Sakamoto – Sukiyaki
- Pavement – Here
- Sam Cooke – Bring It On Home
- Waylon Jennings – Delia’s Gone
- Frank Sinatra – In The Wee Small Hours of The Morning
- The Magnetic Fields – I Don’t Want To Get Over You
- Otis Redding – You Don’t Miss Your Water
- Neil Young – Heart of Gold
- The Make-Up – Time Machine
- LCD Soundsystem – Someone Great
Downloading it right now. Jason and I can listen to it and reminisce about those magical first months of our relationship when I stomped around the house declaring that it “just wasn’t going to work.”